This is a link to the wiki page on eternity rings. Talk of them came up at the pub today. My friend suggested we meet up tonight, just as I was about to suggest the same. I said to him though I would prefer if a) we did not have a messy one and b) if it was just us, and not his fiancee.
He agreed to this and we had a meal at the pub and a couple of drinks this evening. It was fantastic to catch up with him and talk about what has been bugging both of us lately. His brother is way more fun on a night out, but heart to hearts and when we both need to talk, he is unbeaten. Later in the evening he got a call from his lady, asking if her and her friend could come and meet us. We had basically wrapped up the deep parts which we both needed to get out, so we said sure. I wasn’t 100% happy about it, but I couldn’t say no really.
She arrived and we said hello and gave them a hug and a kiss. Conversation was ok, and I wound up the friend because she kept texting. This really bugs me as she was with three other people and yet on her phone. So I destroyed her and she got really embarassed, to the point she asked permission when her phone went off if she could read it. I said no until it had been a while, then said yes. This isn’t the first time either with her, but she is in a weird relationship which I do not want to get into because that will annoy me further.
Talk of the rings came up and we discussed they have picked their wedding bands. She then went on to demand that she gets an eternity ring when their first child is born. I looked at my friend and he looked at me. I argued with her about this, but in a logical method about why it is necessary. Her response was that it was tradition, to which I listed off multiple ways she has broken that, including the fact she has 9 diamonds embedded in her wedding ring. My friend made the best argument which was
“Would you rather have a ring, or use that money towards the future of our child looking after them and helping them have a better life as they grow up?”
You would think she said kid right? Wrong. He and I are from similar financial backgrounds, and combined with the conversation I had today that I will have to be giving my parents even more money to help them through their financial struggle again this month, she did not was to have this argument with me. I laughed it all off in the end and said well I hope you have a prenup, because if she is threatening not to marry you if you don’t buy an eternity ring for her, then best of luck mate.
The simply brattish behaviour she displayed there made me disgusted quite frankly, but I did not want to lose my cool and go off on one. Moments like that you can see the very different ways we were brought up, and the lifestyle that she expects. It has been a hard day, but it is only going to get harder throughout the week. I have responsibility piling on me again at home, and more coming on at work. I have a few emotional issues I need to deal with as well, hence why I am turning to my blog again to vent and get it out.
I hope this helps, I really do. I thought I was making some real progress in my stability and logical thinking again, but moments like this bring me down and make me think am I actually moving forward or am I still where I was when I was 16.