My mum reminded me today that 2 years ago today my grandmother passed away. It feels like an absolute lifetime ago yet I remember my reaction so perfectly.
I got a text from my brother while I was up in my bedroom at uni. I was home alone as everyone had gone home for the Easter break and I was shocked. I called, checked on him then got him to put my mum on the phone and she was in absolute floods of tears. I talked her down and even though I was over 100 miles away helped her pack her suitcase and prepare herself for the flight to see my grandfather and help him and my aunt out there.
I called all of my aunts and my uncle one by one and talked to them checking on them and seeing if anyone else was flying. I offered advice and support, along with all the love I could send them. I told them she had a long life, she had done well; she was in his 80’s so she had had a good innings. They all responded well.
Finally I called my then girlfriend and told her. She asked if I was ok and I played it off like I was fine. I had said a few months before that it wouldn’t affect me if they passed because I’ve only seen them a few times in my life and they have had no real effect on me. She said she would see me at the weekend and conversation ended. I cried for about 10 minutes I think, then got back on with my revision. It was coming up to exams and I had a lot to do. I considered telling my uni as it would be mitigating circumstances, but that didn’t seem right.
Just wanted to say a little something and smile at the few memories I have, along with the many stories passed down. Left school at 14, married to a police officer, 6 children, 5 grandchildren and the funniest dentures I have ever seen.
RIP Nani.
MMS
My Mental Stream 
Peace be with you. My condolences. ms
Thank you ms. I appreciate the thoughts.
Your family are lucky to have you, I’m sure your grandmother would be proud of you looking after them all, and I think it’s really nice that you wrote this post 🙂 xx
Thank you Ellie. Lovely of you to say. Xx
Are you really an angel?
It is incredible and beautiful how you guided your family through such a difficult emotional time, especiallly your mother. As we say here in the South, “that can’t be taught”.
You’re pretty special. I hope they all know it 🙂
I’m far from an angel Rising, so very far away from one.
Sometimes I wonder how “special” I am. But that said I do it because it is what you are supposed to do. You support your family, and I guess anyone in my position would have done the same thing.
I would like to think that. You’ve got the right idea, that’s for sure. I hope you have a beautiful day 🙂
RIP Nani. You wrote a great post here. XX
Thank you. I appreciate you saying so xx