TW: negative coping mechanisms discussed. Be careful.
This morning I woke up and I couldn’t stop thinking about how people react when things get beyond the point they can handle; that feeling of being desolate and completely overwhelmed. I thought about the different ways people react to it.
*Some act out to get attention by being loud or rude or obnoxious. By having attention they can talk about it or validate their feelings.
*Some just curl up in a ball and cry for extended periods of time. It acts like a purging system, crying until you can cry no more and you are numb.
*Some resort to violence; seeking out arguments and fights, or through passive aggression. Both are just anger manifested in different forms from feeling helpless.
*Some cut. The feeling of control over the flow of blood, the rush of chemicals in the body and the release feels like a high and relives stress, even though it is short term.
*Some substance abuse; be that alcohol, prescription or illegal drugs. Dosing up on sleeping tablets or painkillers to numb themselves so they float through and don’t have to face the problems. Drinking oneself into a stupor so you don’t have to deal; escapism.
*Some disassociate and detach completely. They forget it even happened, cordoning the thing off and moving on. Or sometimes forget who they are and carry on with part of themselves missing
*Some power through. Some have the incredible strength of mind and character to bite the bullet and carry on, not stopping but keep trying. Eventually it will be a case of “the straw that broke the camels back”, but they cope for now.
*Some indulge in carnal pleasures. It is both an ego boost as well as a chemical one to feel wanted or used, depending on your standpoint. It helps with validation of the individuals self worth, be that good or bad.
*Some do nothing. They carry on with their lives and do what they do, but have dread and fear inside them, even if it doesn’t always manifest on their faces. In those with less control it is clearly visible they are struggling, but they do the job in hand anyway.
*Some talk; be that a friend, relative, therapist, pet, stranger, inanimate object or blog. It can be logical, it can just be like a dam has burst and everything flows forward. Either way they let it out verbally. Can include tears.
I have done a few of those, and still do some of them now. I haven’t mentioned one of my methods, well I have, just not the form I use. I would be really interested to hear what other peoples coping mechanisms are, or the ones they have heard of. Feel free to share below if you can. Otherwise thanks for reading.